As my last days of my degree are approaching, I take a step back to reflect on my journey so far. Not just at university, but how much I’ve grown as a person overall.
After so many experiences; good and bad, successes and failures. Moments that filled my heart while others left it broken.
In my life, amongst it all, I’m grounded by the fact that I always find the courage to try again.
Here are a few lessons I’ve learnt:
- Banish self doubt
I used to ask this question “What’s wrong with me?”. Or I’d think “I’m just not good enough”. I ask these questions less every day. I figure this negative self doubt doesn’t help me. If things don’t work out the way I want them to, I deal with it. I’ve learnt that whatever experience I am going through is teaching me something I need to know.
- Love yourself enough to be yourself
Relationships are something I cherish, they make me feel fulfilled. Having friends and sharing that connection with someone gives my life so much meaning. But I’ve learnt that people have different expectations of you. They will choose what they want to see. Sometimes that causes conflict but you shouldn’t let that change who you are. Never change yourself to make someone else happy. If they choose to disapprove of you and your flaws, then let it be. Those people weren’t right for you in the first place. People will constantly come in and out of your life. Just be yourself. The right people will naturally come to you.
- Live life.
I can be incredibly emotional and neurotic at times. This can be seen as a massive flaw. But the more I learn about myself, the more I realise it’s because I have passion. Passion for the hobbies I love. Passion for the people who mean the most to me. In hindsight this is something good. I want to delve into something deep and give it my all, welcoming the possibility of failure rather than putting lukewarm effort into it.
I’m looking forward to the future ahead. It’s full of so many different possibilities.
Although it’ll be a whole new world out there, it will take me places where I’ve never even dreamed.
Written by Michelle Lai
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